I want to address doubt.
For me this often comes in waves of insecurity and indecision.
The thing about doubt is that it often has a close friend in fear + it can be crippling. Worry and anxiety have a way of locking you down. You can’t make any decision for fear of being “wrong,” feeling judged, or perhaps the most terrifying for me, the fear of failure.
People fail, we make mistakes, we are wrong, we make rash decisions or judgements. We just do. No one is perfect, no one succeeds in everything they do. No one is free from insecurity, instability, indecision, or doubt. But how we respond to these pressures, these fears, that is what separates the ultimately successful from those who never end up living up to their dreams and aspirations.
So I am here talking about this today because I am fighting my doubt and my fears that want me to believe that I am not successful or impactful. The insecurity that says that putting myself and my business out into the world during this time were mistakes. The indecision that says that before I make a move everything should be perfect. If you didn’t already know, perfection is impossible. I am doing this for myself. If I am able to help people along the way, that’s wonderful, but even as an exercise to challenge my own insecurities, doubt, and fears, it’s worth it. Because I am not going to be careful; I am not going to be perfect. I am going to make mistakes and I am going to fall down. But it’s a journey. Failure teaches, it makes you stronger or it beats you down. Either you reinvigorate yourself with what you believe in and keep fighting for that. Or you don’t.
Instability can be your friend.
Either you fall down and have to pick yourself back up or you’re able to leap forward.
There is a way to use doubt to your advantage. But you have to be able to see where you are and where you want to be and walk towards it. Doubt wants you to stop before you put in the work and you shouldn’t let it. Even if you fail or things don’t go to plan, you will have gained knowledge to take with you on your next endeavor. And even more important, you will know that failure can’t destroy you.
As you look at your habits, there will be times when you are overrun by them. You will get stuck in a rut. Your physical, mental, and emotional habitual tendencies have a very strong pull. It will take time to be able to say no to these things and perhaps even more time to open up to new possibilities and beneficial habits. Do not let these failures, big or small, dissuade you from the path to health and wholeness.
Instability... means you are not rooted in habit.
A place of instability is a good thing. It means that you are not rooted in habit. It means that there are other possibilities, new potentials. It means you are growing and progressing. See if you are able to find a sense of play and try something new, something out of the habitual, something out of your comfort zone. You don’t have to throw caution to the wind; you can and should have a reasoned plan, but don’t be alarmed if you need to recalibrate. You might just find that you’ve begun to shake a habit, begun to find new freedom.
You can do anything if you don’t let doubt get in your way, look for your moments of instability make a choice and just start.